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Soulmates and Unconditional Love

Are you searching for a soulmate or unconditional love? Your quest can set you on an impossible journey to find an ideal partner. The problem is twofold: People and relationships can never achieve perfection. Often unconditional and conditional love are confused.

Usually, we yearn for unconditional love because we didn’t receive it in childhood and fail to give it to ourselves. Of all relationships, parental love, particularly maternal love, is the most enduring form of unconditional love. (In prior generations, paternal love was thought of as conditional.) But in fact, most parents withdraw their love when they’re overstressed or when their children misbehave. To a child, even timeouts can feel like emotional abandonment. Thus, rightly or wrongly, most parents at times only love their children conditionally.

Is Unconditional Love Possible?

 

Unlike romantic love, unconditional love does not seek pleasure or gratification. Unconditional love is more a state of receptivity and allowing, which arises from our own “basic goodness,” says Trungpa Rimpoche. It’s the total acceptance of someone — a powerful energy emanating from the heart.

Love that is unconditional transcends time, place, behavior, and worldly concerns. We don’t decide whom we love, and sometimes don’t know why. The motives and reasons of the heart are unfathomable, writes Carson McCullers:

The most outlandish people can be the stimulus for love. . . The preacher may love a fallen woman. The beloved may be treacherous, greasy-headed, and given to evil habits. Yes, and the lover may see this as clearly as anyone else — but that does not affect the evolution of his love one whit. ~ The Ballad of the Sad Café (2005), p. 26

McCullers explains that most of us prefer to love than be loved:

. . . the value and quality of any love is determined solely by the lover himself. It is for this reason that most of us would rather love than be loved. Almost everyone wants to be the lover. And the curt truth is that, in a deep secret way, the state of being beloved is intolerable to many. ~ ibid

Ideally, the giving and receiving of unconditional love is a unitary experience. Couples experience this most frequently when falling in love. It also happens when someone fearlessly opens up to us in an intimate setting. It’s a being-to-being recognition of that which is unconditional in each of us, our humanity, as if to lovingly say, “Namaste,” meaning: “The God (or divine consciousness) within me salutes the God within you.” When we delight in another’s being-ness, boundaries may dissolve in what feels like spiritual experience. This allows energy to flow into places of resistance that surround our heart and can be deeply healing. It can happen during moments of vulnerability during therapy.

 

Yet, inevitably, these occurrences don’t last, and we return to our ordinary ego state — our conditioned self. We all have our preferences, idiosyncrasies, and particular tastes and needs, which have been conditioned by our upbringing, religion, society, and experiences. We also have limits about what we will and won’t accept in a relationship. When we love conditionally, it’s because we approve of our partner’s beliefs, needs, desires, and lifestyle. They match up with ours and give us comfort, companionship, and pleasure.

We’re fortunate to meet someone we can love conditionally and, at times, unconditionally. The combination of both forms of love in one relationship makes our attraction intense. It’s the closest we come to finding a soulmate.

Confusing Conditional and Unconditional Love

It causes stress and conflict when conditional and unconditional love don’t coexist. Frequently, people tend to confuse the two. I’ve met spouses who were great companions and best friends, but divorced because their relationship marriage lacked the intimate connection of unconditional love. This can be helped in marriage counseling when individuals learn empathy and the language of intimacy. (See my blog, “Your Intimacy Index.”) But it can lead to frustration and unhappiness if we try to force our heart to love unconditionally when other aspects of the relationship are unacceptable or important needs go unmet.

On the other hand, some couples fight all the time, but stay together because they share a deep, unconditional love for each other. In couples counseling, they can learn to communicate in healthier, non-defensive ways that allow their love to flow. I’ve seen couples married over 40 years experience a second honeymoon that’s better than their first!

Other times, the problems in the relationship concern basic values or needs, and the couple, or one partner, decides to separate despite their love. It’s a mistake to believe that unconditional love means we should accept abuse, infidelity, addiction, or other problems we can’t tolerate. The saying, “Love is not enough” is accurate. The relationship ends, but the individuals often go on loving each other — even despite prior violence — which mystifies onlookers, but it’s okay. Closing our heart in self-protection only hurts us. It limits our joy and aliveness.

Dating

Dating stirs up unrealistic hopes of finding constant, unconditional love. We’re liable to go from one lover to the next looking for our ideal soulmate. We may find someone who meets all of our conditions, yet doesn’t open our heart.

Or, unconditional love may naturally arise early on, but then we wonder if we can live with the other person day in and day out. Our conditional concerns and our struggles to accommodate each other’s needs and personal habits can eclipse the short-lived bliss of unconditional love.

The reverse can happen, too. Sometimes, during the romantic phase of love, people commit to marriage, not knowing their partner well. They don’t realize he or she lacks the necessary ingredients that are required to make a marriage work, such as cooperation, self-esteem, and communication and mutual problem-solving skills.

I don’t believe there is only one soulmate destined for each of us. It might seem so, because the conditional and unconditional rarely overlap. According to researcher and psychologist Robert Firestone, “It is difficult to find individuals who are mature enough emotionally to manifest love on a consistent basis. It is even more problematic to accept love when one does receive it.” Firestone theorizes that couples try to maintain an ersatz version of their initial love through a “fantasy bond,” replaying romantic words and gestures that lack authenticity and vulnerability. Partners feel lonely and disconnected from each other, even if the marriage looks good to others.

Opening the Heart

Unconditional love isn’t a high ideal we need to achieve. Actually, striving after it removes us from the experience. It’s always present as the unconditioned part of us — our “pure, primordial presence,” writes Buddhist psychologist John Welwood. He believes that we can glimpse it through mindfulness meditation. By observing our breath, we become more present and can appreciate our basic goodness. In mediation and in therapy, we find those places we choose to hide from ourselves and others.

In trying to reform ourselves, we necessarily create inner conflict, which alienates us from our true self and self-acceptance. (See Conquering Shame and Codependency: 8 Steps to Freeing the True You.) It reflects the belief that we can love ourselves provided we change. That is conditional love. It motivates us to seek unconditional love from others, when we need to give it to ourselves. The more we fight against ourselves, the more we constrict our hearts. Yet, it’s these disowned and unwanted parts of ourselves, which often give us the most problems, that are in the greatest need of our love and attention. Instead of self-judgment, exploration and empathy are necessary. People often enter therapy to change themselves, but hopefully come to accept themselves. Trying to change stems from shame and the premise that we’re inadequate and unlovable.

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https://psychcentral.com/lib/soulmates-and-unconditional-love/

Thought Power – Your Thoughts Create Your Reality

Thought power is the key to creating your reality. Everything you perceive in the physical world has its origin in the invisible, inner world of your thoughts and beliefs. To become the master of your destiny, you must learn to control the nature of your dominant, habitual thoughts. By doing so, you will be able to attract into your life that which you intend to have and experience as you come to know the Truth that your thoughts create your reality.

For Every Outside Effect There is an Inner Cause: Every effect you see in your outside or physical world has a specific cause which has its origin in your inner or mental world. This is the essence of thought power. Put another way, the conditions and circumstances of your life are as a result of your collective thoughts and beliefs. James Allen said it best when he said “circumstances do not make a man, they reveal him”. Every aspect of your life, from the state of your finances to the state of your health and your relationships, is accurately revealing your thoughts and your beliefs.

It’s an Inside Job: Most people have it back to front, believing that they feel or think a certain way because of their circumstances, not knowing the truth that it is their thought power that is creating those very circumstances, whether wanted or unwanted. By internalizing and applying this Truth, that your thoughts create your reality, you will grant yourself the power to create the changes you want to see manifest in your life. Reality creation is an inside job.

Your Thought Power is Limitless: There is a single, intelligent Consciousness that pervades the entire Universe, which is all powerful, all knowing, all creative and present everywhere at the same time – the Universal Mind. Your mind is part of this One Universal Mind and since your thoughts are a product of your mind, it follows that your thought power too is limitless. Once you truly understand that your mind is one with the Single Source of All Power and that this power is within you, you will have found the only true source of infinite power for which nothing is impossible and impossible is nothing. Know that thought power comes from within. Accessing the source of All Power starts by looking inwards.

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Your Thoughts are Alive: The greatest mystics and teachers that have walked the Earth have told us that everything is energy. This has now been undeniably confirmed by modern science. Your thoughts too are energy. William Walker Atkinson told us that “where mind is static energy, thought is dynamic energy – two phases of the same thing” and Charles Haanel went on to say that “thought power is the vibratory force formed by converting static mind into dynamic mind”. Your thoughts are alive. Each time you entertain a specific thought, you emit a very specific, corresponding frequency or energy vibration.

What Frequency Are You On: The basic premise of the Law of Attraction is that like energy attracts like energy. You attract to yourself those things and circumstances that are in vibrational harmony with your dominant frequency, which is itself determined by your dominant mental attitude, habitual thoughts and beliefs. Mike Dooley, one of the presenters of the movie The Secret, fittingly suggests that if you want to know what a thought looks like, just look around you. Keep in mind these three words “thoughts are things”.

Not All Thoughts Are Created Equal: The attractive power of any particular thought is determined by how often you have that thought and by the strength of the feelings or emotions associated with it. The more energy you give to a particular thought, the greater its power to attract its corresponding circumstance into your physical world through the Law of Attraction. Your one-off, passing thoughts do not have the same creative power as your habitual thoughts and beliefs. Remember, that it is of little use to entertain positive thoughts for just a short burst of time each day if you then proceed to think negative or unwanted thoughts for the rest of the day. A negative thought cancels the benefit of a positive thought and vice versa. Since your reality is the sum total of all your thoughts there are many factors influencing your life. This makes it difficult to directly join the dots between the cause (thought) and the effect (circumstance) but the causation is always there.

Use Thought Power to Change Your Life: It is your subconscious mind that is the storehouse of your deep-seated beliefs and programs. To change your circumstances and attract to yourself that which you choose, you must learn to program and re-program your subconscious mind. The most effective and practical way to do so, is to learn the simple process of creative visualization. It is the technique underlying reality creation, making use of thought power to consciously imagine, create and attract that which you choose. Your imagination is the engine of your thoughts. It converts your thought power into mental images, which are in turn manifested in the physical realm.

Instantly Replace Unwanted Thoughts: To instantly neutralize the power of a negative thought, calmly and deliberately replace it with its opposite, positive equivalent. For instance, if you think to yourself “I’m not good enough, I will never succeed”, mentally replace that thought with “I am good enough and success comes to me easily”. You can also use the “cancel, cancel” technique made famous by the Silva Method. Each time you catch yourself thinking an unwanted thought, mentally tell yourself and the Universe “cancel, cancel” and immediately follow it up with a positive statement.

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http://www.mind-your-reality.com/thought_power.html

What We Do In Life Echoes In Eternity

 

Our Deepest Fear

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people will not feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It is not just in some of us; it is in everyone and as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give others permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.

  • A Return to Love: Reflections on the Principles of “A Course in Miracles”, Ch. 7, Section 3 (1992), p. 190. This famous passage from her book is often erroneously attributed to Nelson Mandela. About the mis-attribution Williamson said, “Several years ago, this paragraph from A Return to Love began popping up everywhere, attributed to Nelson Mandela’s 1994 inaugural address. As honored as I would be had President Mandela quoted my words, indeed he did not. I have no idea where that story came from, but I am gratified that the paragraph has come to mean so much to so many people.”

 

  • Variants:

 

  • Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine as children do. It’s not just in some of us; it is in everyone. And as we let our own lights shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.

 

  • Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.
    • A variant in Akeelah and the Bee (2006), displayed in a picture frame on the wall, attributing it to Mandela.

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When You Teach Your Son – You Teach Your Son’s Son

10 Ways Mentally Strong People Build Powerful Mindsets

Some people call it grit. Others call it perseverance. Whatever name you give it, a strong mindset is a trait shared by the world’s best performers – whether they are entrepreneurs, leaders, musicians or athletes.

Yet a strong mindset is more than simply refusing to quit. True strength of mind comes from a combination of awareness, focus and resiliency. A strong mindset is what allows you to stay focused on your intentions, instead of negative thoughts. It’s what helps you understand that struggle is impermanent and won’t derail your success. It keeps you from making self-destructive decisions.

So how do you cultivate a mindset that rivals the strongest performers on earth? You learn and adopt the same habits they use every day. Here are ten things that remarkably successful people do to develop a powerful mindset of success.

They use the power of intention

I recently met Randy Jackson, former host of American Idol and prolific business leader in the music industry, at The Human Gathering conference in Los Angeles. He mentioned that artists like David Bowie and Madonna had a mindset that produced an insatiable belief in their future success. They acted as if their success and fame was as real as gravity, even before they had it.

This is a great example of how successful people use the power of intention to build belief systems around the things they want to create or experience. Then they make them real. You can learn to tap into this power by using this list of powerful mantras that help build a mindset of success.

They make time to think

Successful people are certainly busy, but that doesn’t mean they’re constantly hustling with their head down. They also understand the importance of reflection and introspection. They take time to examine their progress and give their minds the space needed to notice new ideas or opportunities.

They learn to deal with negative thoughts

The best performers are aware of the negative thoughts that derail most people and they know how to deal with them in a productive way. Instead of suppressing negativity, they accept that negative thoughts are simply thoughts with no inherent power. They don’t attach to them, and in doing so, are free to look at the same situation from a new angle. Finally, they replace the negative thought with a new one that serves them well.

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They don’t listen to the haters

When you play big, someone is bound to hate on your ideas or success. Winners do not give their power away by allowing hate and external judgment to affect their ambitions or self-confidence.

They meditate

Meditation aims to calm your mind so you can become aware of your thoughts and emotions. While the techniques and tools vary, a meditation practice helps you get to know yourself on a deeper level while also lowering your baseline of stress and anxiety. Top performers know that moments of stillness dissolve distractions and stress – leaving them with the clarity to flow in the direction they want to go.

They work with coaches

Even the most successful people hire coaches to help them stay focused, remain accountable to the process and hone their craft. They know that a coach is a key ingredient to pushing their minds and talents to the next level.

They are constantly learning

One trait shared by remarkably successful people is a dedication to reading and learning. Successful people are voracious readers. They know that learning is a key ingredient for a growth mindset. Here’s a list of great books for entrepreneurs.

They have clear goals

Successful people know what they want. They define their goals in specific terms and they write them down on paper. The process of writing them down makes them feel even more real. Also, many successful people use vision boards to keep their intentions in the forefront of their minds.

They exercise

We all know that exercise is good for us, yet that doesn’t mean we actually make it a priority. Remarkably successful people know the connection between a healthy brain and body and professional success. The path to greatness includes physical and emotional demands that are more manageable when your mind and body are strong and healthy.

They laugh

Everyone needs a release, and laughter releases endorphins, the brain’s “feel good” chemical, which enables us to let go of stress and negativity. People who laugh often are happier and more productive. Find time for laughter every day, even if it’s a quick video clip on YouTube.

When your mind is strong, you can handle the ups and downs of the entrepreneurial journey. When your mind is weak, you’re vulnerable to making bad decisions due to fatigue, fear and panic. Adopt these habits and build a powerful mindset that will lead to personal growth and professional success.

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A Facebook Exec’s 5 Tips for Building Successful Distributed Teams

With 45 offices around the world, Facebook executives certainly understand the challenges of leading a distributed team.

As Facebook’s head of platform and marketplace, Deb Liu has spearheaded projects that include things such as login to marketplace and payments, leading teams based in places from Seattle to Singapore.

During her seven and a half years at the company, she has learned some lessons in effective leadership. From incorporating people on the ground to communication methods, check out these five tips from Liu to make your remote management process as seamless as possible.

1. Incorporate local leadership.

When growing, it’s important to make sure your distributed offices feel just as important as the central office. “You don’t want them to feel like they have less opportunity and less growth,” Liu says.

That’s why it’s necessary to bring in people from that area to join the team. “Having a local leadership team creates a strong foundation in which you can build a strong office in the long-term,” she says.

Local leadership allows a company to understand what’s happening in a new office’s area and any challenges that people there face. Ask questions such as, What are the work hours in that city? What is the weather like? What are the activities people do?

Understanding that locale will help foster a stronger office culture.

2. Transplant one or two people from headquarters.

There’s no reason to start from scratch when building a new team. Although it’s important to hire locally and employ local managers, a company should also transplant one or two leaders from the company’s headquarters to get the new office on its feet.

Those people can be in charge of growing the new team, and act as a bridge between the central and distributed office. Sending ambassadors is “an opportunity to build two-way communication,” Liu says.

3. Your first hires are the most important.

A strong company culture stems from a strong local culture. That all comes down to who you hire. “Your first few hires are going to be key in the kind of culture and office you’re going to build,” she says.

These key hires help set the foundation for your distributed office and play an important role in building the local team.

“Hire people who are self-motivated, good communicators and who are open and honest. These qualities will serve them in a remote working scenario,” Liu says.

4. Use the best technology.

An obvious challenge of distributed offices is that they reduce or eliminate face-to-face communication. Today’s technology can make up for this, allowing for seamless communication and the ability to build relationships. “The level of intimacy you can create is only as good as the technology that connects you,” Liu says.

For Liu’s teams, video conferencing has been the key to their success — and she recommends it for any business with distributed offices. Here are some quick tips from Liu:

  • Be mindful of timezones.
  • Assign someone to be a video conferencing sherpa, who’s tasked with monitoring the meeting and making sure everyone is heard.
  • Take notes and send them out to everyone after the meeting.
  • Maintain message threads and group chats so everyone stays connected.

5. Host company-wide events.

Technology today can take the place of face-to-face meetings, but it’s still important to host company-wide events to boost morale, build cohesion and foster creativity.

Facebook hosts an annual “Hackathon” for its employees — giving them the opportunity to collaborate with others in the company and put their creativity to the test. Every year, the hackathon is hosted in a different city of one of its distributed offices, and Facebook employees from around the world come together to participate.

“It is these things as a company that make us not headquarter-centric,” Liu says. It teaches employees about the cultures of other offices, and ensures that everyone at the company can feel the same level of opportunity and appreciation.

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https://www.entrepreneur.com/article/290877

“Don’t Depend too much on Anyone in this World”

The Meaning of Success and How to Define Success in Life

This article about accomplishment is going to explain the meaning of success and shall answer the question: “How to define success in life?” In the following, you can find a definition of success and what it means to be successful in life. (For a more detailed explanation of success, have a look at what is success. Also, be sure not to miss: how to measure success and what does success mean to you. Definition of Success: Success (the opposite of failure) is the status of having achieved and accomplished an aim or objective. Being successful means the achievement of desired visions and planned goals. Furthermore, success can be a certain social status that describes a prosperous person that could also have gained fame for its favorable outcome. The dictionary describes success as the following: “attaining wealth, prosperity and/or fame”.

How to define success in life?

The only person that can answer the question above is you. I am neither able nor willing to prescribe the ultimate definition of success, as this is not possible. Every person is thinking differently about being prosperous in life and is defining success in another way, so there can’t exist a definition that is suitable for all. It is very important that you know exactly how to define success in life! Make yourself aware what accomplishment, success, and prosperity in general means to you in your life. Some might define success as having luxurious cars and a huge mansion, whereas others consider a life full of joy and happiness with their family as the true meaning of success. Once you have figured out what is important for you personally you are able to focus on your visions and goals.

The meaning of success

One of the most important key steps to achieving success in life is to know the meaning of success for your personal life. The true meaning of success goes far beyond the common definitions of success, such as having a lot of money, being wealthy, having a lot of tangibles and earned degrees. Quite the opposite: true success in life cannot be measured with the above-named factors, but instead with the amount of people that are able to live a better and more advanced life because of what you created. This is the meaning of success. Not the trophies people are collecting in their lives. Media and society let us often conclude that living a successful life means to be extraordinarily wealthy and have a lot of tangibles. But the meaning of success is to live a happy life and to make this world a better place for everyone.

Definition of failure

The opposite of success is failure as it means to fail while trying to achieve aims or objectives. Besides this regular definition of failure, it also can be said that even wealthy and successful persons fail in their lives. Just think about the rich and famous and all their scandals, addictions and suicides. All of them were extraordinary persons but a lot of them were also extremely unhappy with their lives and were not able to see the meaning of success. Wealth cannot be defined with money, but instead with values in your life that make you a happy person, such as friendship, relationships, and your family.

  1. The difference between accomplishment and success:

    Accomplishment is often associated with success, but it is not the same. Accomplishment refers to the results we desire when we attempt to reach specific goals. Basically it is the results that we plan or expect to occur. Success is the positive consequence or outcome of an achieved accomplishment.

  2. The definition of accomplishment

    Accomplishment can be seen as the process to become successful and with every accomplished goal you take a step towards prosperity and a life full of success.

How to achieve success in life?

  • The process of becoming successful starts with elaborated goal setting
  • Define a strategy and a plan how you intend to reach your goals, aims, and visions
  • Keep in mind that success is the consequence of having earned a series of accomplishments, so make sure to divide your goals into easier to reach subgoals

Success quotes:

In the following, I have found some very inspiring and motivating quotes that shall accompany you on your journey to achieve happiness.

Action is the foundational key to all success. ~ Pablo Picasso

Always bear in mind that your own resolution to succeed is more important than any other. ~ Abraham Lincoln

Defeat is not the worst of failures. Not to have tried is the true failure. ~ George Edward Woodberry

Discipline is the bridge between goals and accomplishment. ~ Jim Rohn

Keep in mind the meaning of success and always try to remember how to define success in life, so that you will be able to live a life full of happiness and joy.

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http://www.planetofsuccess.com/blog/2010/accomplishment-the-meaning-of-success-and-how-to-define-success-in-life/

4 Ways Entrepreneurs Can Find Inspiration, Ideas and Motivation For Business In Everyday Life

Ideas are everywhere. Ideas can sometimes be a problem that just needs an answer. Inherent in every problem you face everyday is an idea that can change the world. Solutions are simply ideas that someone stayed and thought out after hours/days of deliberate ponderings. o current and budding entrepreneurs.

 

Ideas are sparked into existence usually by some independent and unexpected factor; they don’t come just because we will them into existence. Having an eureka moment is more probable when we decide to shift from routine and convention. When we do things we would not normally do, go places we have never being before or carry out routine activities differently.

 

Simply put, according to Andy Boynton, co-author of The Idea Hunter, “Almost all ideas can be found in the world around us”. So how do you go about positioning yourself to become an idea conduit? Here are a few tips that will get you out of your innovation rut and help you think creatively again.

 

1. Write down Every Potential Idea Down

 

You are not perfect, no one is. This implies that in the course of your life, you must have failed at something, anything. I failed in countless businesses before I finally succeeded with an e-commerce startup. Perhaps in your business, you have abandoned a job/activity, ignored it or failed to address it in an effective manner.

 

Keep an ever-updated list of your shortcomings and failings, as each is a potential opportunity/idea. No matter how weird it sound, any idea has potential to make you millions. A lot of people have become ridiculously rich by selling their weird ideas to people.

Ideas are everywhere. Ideas can sometimes be a problem that just needs an answer. Inherent in every problem you face everyday is an idea that can change the world. Solutions are simply ideas that someone stayed and thought out after hours/days of deliberate pondering.

When you jot down every idea that come across to you. When you pay attention to every details, problems and issues that arise around you, you’d find that you’re never dry of ideas.

 

2. Observe Foreign Locations, Cultures and People

 

Today we use grills, gas cookers, electric stoves and grills among others to prepare our edibles. In some third world countries, all they have is firewood and an occasional kerosene stove or two. We both arrive at the same product – food – albeit to varying degrees of efficiency and quality.

 

People all over the world, in different cultures from your own will always have things that they do different from you. This human and cultural variety provides a very wide pool of ideas. Take your time to observe people of other cultures, notice the way they approach problems, the principles and methods they apply towards problem solving. You will likely pick up a thing or two.

 

If you have to visit such places physically, plan a trip during your vacation, meet the people, participate in their culture and relish their diversity. Besides the stress-relieving attribute of taking vacations, there is the promise of the stimulation of your mind when you visit new environments.

 

The idea for Disneyland’s Magic Kingdom was born on such an expedition, when Walt Disney visited Tivoli Gardens, one of Europe’s oldest amusement parks. Remember, exploration and observation are the mothers of creativity and innovation, so explore like Walt Disney and prepare to reap the benefits.

 

3. Try to Draw a Lesson from Every Situation and Facts

 

Every failure has a lesson inherent in it. Learning from every situation is a habit. It’s a habit every entrepreneur should imbibe for maximum learning and progress in profession.

Everything that happens to you, good or bad, likely has something that you can take away from it. It could be a lesson or an idea, whatever the case; we should always keep all our senses peeled to realize when these moments come our way.

 

For example, I now deeply value being sober whenever I come across drunk driving accident statistics. I stopped drinking early in life because of these statistics and other situations I fell into.

 

It takes responsibility to learn lessons from every situations and facts. This habit makes an entrepreneur a person of numbers. The more lessons you draw from happenings around you, the more motivated, articulate and better you become in life and business. There is no guarantee that this will work all the time, but like they say, practice makes perfect.

 

4. Feed your Curiosity

 

Many times, we tend to glaze over stuff in the course of everyday life. A lot happens around us but our addiction to routine has left us as oblivious as can be. We just get up in the morning, go about the day as usual and retire for the day.

 

Thousands of inventions that we enjoy today will never have seen the light of the day if their inventors were not curious people. Take your time to notice the details around you that conventional behavior has always kept you from seeing.

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http://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/4-ways-entrepreneurs-can-find-inspiration-ideas-and_us_58d13d86e4b0e0d348b347cf

Most powerful law in the Universe

If you haven’t heard about Law of Attraction before, your mind is going to get blown away in few seconds. Law of Attraction simply means that “like attracts like” and that by focusing on positive or negative thoughts, one can bring about positive or negative results. ‘Thought becomes things’. This belief is based upon the idea that people and their thoughts are both made from “pure energy”, and the belief that like energy attracts like energy. All the successful entrepreneur believes in the law of attraction and believe in the universe with all their heart.

This is most powerful law in the Universe.

There are tons of books written on Law of Attraction but I am going to sum all of them up for you. The law simply means you become what you think. You attract things by what you believe and what you hope for. Universe is very powerful and can give you whatever you want only if you really really want it and have faith in it without any doubt. The whole universe force starts working on it to get you that thing and all you have to do is believe and have complete faith in it. We are using the law every second of every day. You’ve even attracted reading this article.

This Universal Power of Attraction give you everything you want, happiness, health, wealth, love, relationship, prosperity and in whole complete abundance. The key in making Law of Attraction work for you is in Gratitude.

If you doubt in Law of Attraction it won’t work for you it is as simple as that, you get what you believe in. There are millions of people who have made Law of Attraction work for them and you can be one of them. Are you already interested to make Law of Attraction work for you? Well it can be very simple for some and very hard for some. It will depend how much faith you do have and even a tint of doubt will stop the Universe to work for you.

You want a car? You want a bill from unknown source? You want your Dream job?

You will get it all by just applying the Law of Attraction without any extra efforts. Yes it is true. All you have to do is attract those things towards you.  That is why this is the most powerful law in the Universe.

Knowing Law of Attraction is not the whole point, but knowing “How it Works” and “How to Apply” is the most vital of all.

Back then I was really passionate about racing cars and always dreamt of driving one. All my teenage I was so much into cars that my wallpapers were of racing cars, I used to cut out pictures from newspaper and do all this crazy stuff. But as I did grow old I started believing that I will never have one because my financial condition was not that good. I was working on this company as an accountant and it was quit boring and low paid. I nearly gave up on my dream of having a race car until I heard about the Law of Attraction. It took a series of steps and ultimate believe to apply Law of Attraction and believe me it was worth it. I was doing nothing extra and nothing extra ordinary just believing that I will own a Race car soon and its going to sound little filmy but that’s what happened. My immense desire and hope helped me fulfil my dream. I got this call from my friend asking about my old apartment and his cousin was ready to purchase it at triple price as they had some old story with that house. Because of this I got money from nowhere to buy a race car for myself. How amazing was that? That’s the power of law of attraction.

-Anonymous

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http://success-king.blogspot.com/2015/05/most-powerful-law-in-universe.html

12 Fears You Need to Overcome to Succeed in Business and Life

Your fears can be the biggest barriers to your success.

They can stop you from going after what you truly desire; they can make you believe that your chances of success are so small that you don’t even try. Fears are complex; they’re cunning, they can be deep-seated, and they are often subconscious, which can mean that you are not always aware of what it is that is holding you back.

In her excellent book Fight the Fear, Mandie Holgate highlights 12 fears you need to overcome to remove your negative mindset and win in life. For each fear, Mandie offers practical exercises to help you get beyond it so you can pursue and achieve your goals.

Fear 1 – What if someone finds out who you really are?

Too often people hide who they really are, what they really want, or what they really enjoy in life for fear that other people may not approve. The reality is, not everyone wants to be a multimillionaire or a CEO of a major corporation. Some people are quite happy to live what could be considered an unambitious life. But chasing someone else’s dream is never going to lead to your happiness. You need to understand your values, be true to yourself, and not worry about what other people think. Go after what pleases you, and what you are passionate about.

Fear 2 – Scared of setting goals

People that set the wrong goals or hesitate to set any goals end up procrastinating and invariably don’t get the results at work they desire. I see this fear manifest itself with so many professional people as negative feelings, results, and actions.

And all because they fear setting goals.

If you don’t set goals, then it’s impossible to create a solid action plan to achieve what you want to achieve. Without a plan, you’re pinning your hopes on luck, and hoping to be lucky is not a smart strategy.

Fear 3 – Don’t believe you can succeed

Fear of failure stops far too many people from even attempting to achieve their goals. But there are a couple of things for you to remember. First, many a path to success is littered with mistakes and failures; it goes with the territory. Second, so what if you fail? Do you really know the consequences of failing and are they really that bad? For many of my coaching clients who have this fear of failure, the impact of failure would often be negligible–maybe a little bit of embarrassment, possibly a waste of some time and or resources.

To get over the fear of failure, ask yourself, “So, what if I do fail?” What is the worst that can happen? If the reality is “Not a lot,” which is often the case with my coaching clients, then dive in, give it a shot.

Don’t let just the fear of failing hold you back.

Fear 4 – I don’t want to appear arrogant

Success doesn’t sit comfortably with everyone, myself included. It can sometimes feel as if we have become above our station, that by claiming our success we are looking to put ourselves above others, which can then be perceived as arrogance. This perception can often limit the goals that we set for ourselves, for fear of separating ourselves from the herd. There is nothing arrogant about achieving your full potential.

Don’t let the limitations of others become the limits that you set for yourself.

Fear 5 – I don’t ask for help

There are a number of reasons why people don’t ask for help. Fear of rejection; they don’t want to appear stupid; they worry it will undermine their achievements; they don’t want people to know they are struggling. The reality is, very few people achieve great success without the support and assistance of others. Often people are willing to help if we will just reach out and ask them.

Asking for help is something I have really struggled with, mostly because of a fear of rejection, but I read the book, looked at the strategies proposed, and decided to give it a try. Recently, I posted a simple request on Facebook for some help with sales and marketing. Within 20 minutes, I had four offers of help.

Normally, I would have just soldiered on, struggling. But several friends were happy to help and wondered why I had never asked before.

You probably have more help available than you know. You just need to reach out and ask.

Fear 6 – I’m scared of saying no

When you don’t say no to others, then you can be saying no to yourself. You need to learn to be fair to yourself. If a request distracts you from your goal, then politely say no or offer to help at a time that best suits you. There are plenty of people who will let you quit on your goals to help them achieve theirs.

You also need to make sure you are clear and focused on your objectives so you can say yes to the right opportunities, those that will lead to your desired success. There will always be new opportunities that will arise, and you need to be comfortable saying no to those that are not aligned with your priorities. It can be easy to become distracted, especially if those opportunities have short-term benefits.

Fear 7 – I’m petrified of public speaking

In most careers, at some time you are going to have to give a presentation, make a speech, or speak to a group of your employees, especially as you start to make progress up the ranks. For many, public speaking is one of their greatest fears. I’ve heard people say they would rather have a root canal than stand up and speak in public.
It’s actually something I struggled with for a while, even though I am now an international keynote speaker. Some of the things you can do to help get over the fear are:

  • Practice. But don’t overdo it, because you want to sound natural, not scripted
  • Keep the talk simple–don’t use much jargon unless you have to
  • Be confident about your right to be in the room or on the stage. You have earned it
  • Don’t worry about forgetting something. Probably only you would notice anyway
  • Don’t use notes unless you really have to

Fear 8 – I hate phoning people

This is definitely a problem if you’re involved with sales or business development. While you might not be looking to do a sales pitch on the phone, you may need to call a client to arrange a visit or an appointment to discuss how you can help.

Personally, I hate calling, especially cold calling. But having read Mandie’s book, I realize it’s because I hate to disturb people or waste their time.

Using one of Mandie’s techniques, now, before each call, I focus on what the client will get out of the call, how the client will benefit. Doing this takes away my fear and helps me get a mutually beneficial conversation started.

Fear 9 – I don’t want to look stupid

Being successful can often require us to go against the flow, to challenge the current way of doing things and try something different. But if it goes wrong, it can lead to ridicule from others.

I’m old enough to remember when Dick Fosbury changed high jumping forever. I remember watching him run toward the bar and then turn and jump over the bar backward. It looked completely crazy, and many of the commentators questioned his bizarre technique.

Fosbury didn’t care that he looked stupid. He persisted and had the last laugh by winning the 1968 Mexico Olympics high jump gold medal, and gave the Fosbury Flop to the world.

At the Mexico Olympics, he was the only person to use that technique. At every major high jump event since, that has been the predominant technique used.

Dare to be different. It could lead to amazing success!

Fear 10 – I can’t stop scrutinizing what people are thinking

Acceptance from others is a strong desire that many people have, and it can cause us to question the things we do by wondering what other people are thinking: about us, about our businesses, our plans, and our goals. I know this can cause many of my coaching clients to put off making decisions or taking actions.

The reality is that most people are too busy worrying about their own problems to be scrutinizing what others are doing.

Second, who cares? We have enough of our own negative thoughts to deal with without adding other people’s potential negativity to our list of obstacles to overcome.

Keep focused on your goal, and don’t worry about the thoughts of others. The right people will be supportive of you, and those who aren’t shouldn’t be the people you pay attention to.

Fear 11 – I’m scared to ask for what I want

Practically every entrepreneur I have ever coached was underpricing his or her services. One client I had was charging $225 per hour for his service, and was keen to get $350 per hour but didn’t think his clients would pay it. It was amazing when you looked at the value he provided; he had optimized a company’s recruitment process, reducing costs by 33 percent, and at the same time increased productivity by 75 percent. This saved the company around $300,000 per year as well as nearly doubled its results. From a value perspective, my client could have been charging $1,000 per hour, and it still would have been a bargain.

Too many people think about their costs and their hourly rate, and it stops them from not only asking for what they want but also for what they are worth.

Think about the value you bring, the results you will generate for your client, and price yourself accordingly.

Fear 12 – I can’t take time out

Business can be very demanding, especially when it comes to the amount of our personal time that it can consume. I can remember the days when being a workaholic meant that you stayed at the office until 7 or 8 p.m., or brought work home on the weekend. But now, since the rise of the laptop, the internet, and the mobile phone and the world becoming more global, being available on call or online 24/7 feels more like the norm. What opportunities we will miss if we take time out? How will our businesses function if we are not available for each and every crisis?

To live a healthy, happy life, we need to have great work-life balance.

It’s natural to think that we are indispensable, but the reality is, we’re not. People will always find a way to cope, and there will always be more opportunities.

I worked for one of the largest companies in the world, one whose business was dependent on information technology, and our CIO used to turn his phone off at 7 every evening. He said he had complete confidence in his staff, they knew far more than he did, and if it was truly an emergency, they knew where he lived.

We make ourselves indispensable, but we can find a way to step back and take time out if we really want to.

The more of these fears you can overcome, the more business and personal success you can achieve. It’s not easy. Many fears are deep rooted. But if we consciously work on them, we can make improvements.

Which fears impact you and your business the most?

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The Happiness of Pursuit

If you’re an American and you’re not having fun, it just might be your own fault. Our long national expedition is entering its 238th year, and from the start, it was clear that this would be a bracing place to live. There would be plenty of food, plenty of land, plenty of minerals in the mountains and timber in the wilderness. You might have to work hard, but you’d have a grand time doing it.

That promise, for the most part, has been kept. There would be land rushes and gold rushes and wagon trains and riverboats and cities built hard against cities until there was no place to build but up, so we went in that direction too. We created outrageous things just because we could–the Hoover Dam, the Golden Gate Bridge, the Empire State Building, which started to rise the year after the stock market crashed, because what better way to respond to a global economic crisis than to build the world’s tallest skyscraper? We got to the moon 40 years later and, true to our hot-rodding spirit, soon contrived to get a car up there as well. The tire tracks left on the lunar surface (tracks that are still there) are the real American graffiti.

All human beings may come equipped with the pursuit-of-happiness impulse–the urge to find lusher land just over the hill, fatter buffalo in the next valley–but it’s Americans who have codified the idea, written it into the Declaration of Independence and made it a central mandate of the national character. American happiness would never be about savor-the-moment contentment. That way lay the reflective café culture of the Old World–fine for Europe, not for Jamestown. Our happiness would be bred, instead, of an almost adolescent restlessness, an itch to do the Next Big Thing. The terms of the deal the founders offered are not easy: there’s no guarantee that we’ll actually achieve happiness, but we can go after it in almost any way we choose. All by itself, that freedom ought to bring us joy, but the more cramped, distracted, maddeningly kinetic nature of the modern world has made it harder than ever. Somehow there must be a way to thread that needle, to reconcile the contradictions between our pioneer impulses and our contemporary selves.

Those impulses are very deeply rooted: pilgrims to the New World were a self-selected group. Not every person suffering under the whip of tyranny or the crush of poverty had the temperamental wherewithal to pick up, pack up and travel to the other side of the globe and start over. Those who did were looking for something–pursuing something–and happiness is as good a way of defining that goal as any. Once that migrant population started raising babies on a new continent, the odds were that the same questing spirit would be bred into or at least taught to the new generations as well.

And it has been. It took us 100 years to settle the continent and less than 200 to become the world’s dominant power. We snatched and grabbed and extracted, yes, but we gave back too. Happy people don’t just accumulate fortune; they invent things–the lightbulb, the telegraph, the movie camera, the airplane, the mass-produced automobile, the polio vaccine, the personal computer, social media, the iPhone. And happy people are also generous people, rebuilding other nations (hello, Marshall Plan) and donating to charities; the U.S. still ranks No. 1 among all nations in per capita charitable giving.

But what happens to a breed of people hardwired by genes or culture or both to build, build, build when most of the building is done? What happens when the sprinting dog actually catches the car? That first moon landing–Apollo 11–was a very big deal, something we had pursued like nothing else. But Apollo 12? Sort of a letdown.

It’s not as if we don’t have the financial means to keep ourselves stimulated. We spent $118 billion on travel abroad in 2012; we spend close to $25 billion per year to attend sporting events and, combined with Canada, nearly $11 billion on movie tickets. We buy ourselves an annual $140 billion worth of recreational equipment and $200 billion of electronics.

But that’s consumptive happiness, the happiness that comes not from sowing but from reaping, not from building the house but from watching TV in your new living room. That may be the goal of the work, but it’s a goal that, once achieved, can leave us feeling bored.

Since 1972, only about one-third of Americans have described themselves as “very happy,” according to surveys funded by the National Science Foundation. Just since 2004, the share of Americans who identify themselves as optimists has plummeted from 79% to 50%, according to a new Time poll. Meanwhile, more than 20% of us will suffer from a mood disorder at some point in our lifetimes and more than 30% from an anxiety disorder. By the time we’re 18 years old, 11% of us have been diagnosed with depression.

The gap between our optimistic expectations and the reality that a significant portion of the population is, of late, cranky and dissatisfied may be what has spawned the vast happiness industry. We tap that industry in a lot of ways–with pills (the Time poll found that 25% of American women and 5% of men say they are taking antidepressants), with food (48% of women and 44% of men admit to eating to improve their mood, contributing to the U.S. obesity epidemic), with self-improvement products and services (including books, audiobooks and seminars, self-improvement is a $10 billion-a-year industry, about the same as Hollywood), with borrowed wisdom (there are 5,000 motivational speakers in the U.S., earning a collective $1 billion per year). The pursuit of happiness, once an ideal, has become a big business but not an especially effective one; plenty of other countries are doing a lot better than we are without trying so hard. According to the 2012 World Happiness Report, published by the Earth Institute of Columbia University, the U.S. ranks 23rd on a 50-country happiness index, far behind No. 1 Iceland, No. 2 New Zealand and No. 3 Denmark and trailing Singapore, Malaysia, Tanzania and Vietnam.

Source:

http://content.time.com/time/magazine/article/0,9171,2146449-2,00.html

How to Motivate Yourself to Succeed!

Another key concept with success is commitment. Commitment is absolutely necessary in order to achieve goals. You can say you will do something, but until you actually make a decision to commit to it and follow through with the relevant steps, you will most likely not see progress and achievement towards that desired outcome.

So here are some Strategies to Motivate Yourself to Succeed!

1- Visualize the short-term and long-term benefits of achieving that goal/dream

– What does it look like? How are you feeling and experiencing that moment? Bring those feelings into the visualization.
– Who is there celebrating with you and enjoying your experience?
– What are the benefits/rewards to achieving this goal?

Sometimes rather than visualization, it’s just an intuitive feeling and thought that comes to you that moves you closer to your goal or dream. Trust this intuition and believe you will achieve this goal. Then follow through with action steps to get you there.

This is seriously a very effective approach that literally has created amazing opportunities and results for me! Time and time again, while I’m on practice runs, I visualize myself crossing the finish line in a race and who is there cheering me on. It’s such a confidence booster and allows you to move pass your doubts and fears.

2- Create “healthy” competition with yourself!

One of my favorite approaches! If someone doesn’t believe you can do it, then prove that person wrong. How? By showing them that you can achieve that goal, and even exceed that goal. Go after exceeding your expectations and the expectations of those who don’t support you. Show yourself and them otherwise!

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Tell yourself this when you or someone doesn’t believe you can do it. Repeat in your mind this self mantra: “I’m going to step up and prove everyone wrong. I am or I will be ______ (fill in the blank of what or who you want to become – can be a trait, occupation, and the outcome desired).”

Ex: “I’m going to step up and prove everyone wrong. I am going to college and I will achieve my bachelor’s degree.”

3- Build in rewards for yourself along the way.

– You want to provide yourself with rewards/recognition for each step of the goal achieved.
– Celebrate the big accomplishment/goal in a bigger way, if you can.
– Reward should match goal type — accomplishing small steps compared to achieving the entire goal.
– We may need to create these recognition opportunities for ourselves.

Sometimes we are lucky enough to have this already built into the goal we are working towards like receiving a medal just for crossing the finish line at a half marathon regardless of your time. That’s right — you don’t have to be the fastest runner to receive a medal. You better believe I wanted something to show for that journey of all that hard training and finishing the race itself! I plan to run a few more half marathons and have a collection of medals.

4- Have a theme song or a collection of theme songs to get you psyched about the opportunity and the process towards the goal.

– Any song(s) that gets you feeling positive and energized.
– Enhance your visualization of the goal outcome by playing theme songs while visualizing.
– It really takes you to that moment of success and makes you feel that it has already happened. It’s an amazing and powerful technique!

Right now, I’m really feeling “The Good Life” by One Republic, “Raise Your Glass” by Pink, “Good Feeling” by Flo Rida, “We Found a Love” by Rihanna as my theme songs. With adventures, travel, making an impact with the teens/college students, celebrations, and love all in sight for me!

Again, it’s not enough to make the decision, commitment, visualize the outcome with theme songs, and repeat the mantra over and over again, as you will need to follow through with the necessary actions to achieve your goal. To further support you with achieving your goals, I’m including in this blog a goal-setting worksheet based on the concept of SMART goals that you can start using today.

Over the next few weeks, we’ll review a few more motivation strategies to move you closer to the desired outcome you seek. So check back and see you then! In the mean time, tell me what strategies you have implemented to motivate you to succeed, whether these or other ones.

Source:

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/sarina-tomel/how-to-motivate-yourself_b_3608373.html

5 Steps to Reinvent Yourself: Create the Future You Visualize

“You’re never too old to set another goal or dream a new dream.” ~C. S. Lewis

Change means reinvention. Each time a major shift happens in our lives—leaving a job or a relationship, moving, losing a loved one—we have to choose who we want to become or risk never reaching our full potential.

I’ve reinvented myself several times in my life. Most adults have.

But what I always forget is that we have to choose reinvention. Each time I’ve done it, I’ve forged my new path deliberately and with foresight.

When I’ve waited for my future to find me, I’ve waited in vain, lost in confusion and sadness, or I’ve gotten tangled up in a situation I didn’t want.

One morning, after struggling for months with grief and loss, I woke up and realized that I was having so much trouble moving forward partly because I had no idea what it was that I wanted to move toward. I was thinking about my past, but not what I wanted for my future.

That morning, I woke with a vision: a crowd of people from the life I needed to leave behind with the sun rising opposite them and me standing between the two, the sun beating down on my face.

In the vision, I decided, finally, to turn from the group and walk toward the sun, my new life.

That vision told me what I needed to hear—that I had to take control of my future instead of letting my pain choose for me.

These are steps I’ve identified to reinvent yourself:

1. Create a vision for your future.

Sit quietly, close your eyes, and imagine the people, places, or situations that you need to leave behind. Now, imagine the future that you want, whether it’s simply a feeling, a group of people, or a situation such as a wonderful new job.

Imagine how it will feel to be in that new place. Picture the sun coming up behind your future, the warm glow of the light on your face.

Stand for a moment and silently voice your appreciation for everything that came before. Once you’ve thanked the past, turn toward the sun, and with compassion and gratitude, imagine yourself walking away from the past and into the future.

2. Write about your reinvention.

Imagine a scene from it or write about how you’d like it to play out. Where are you living? What do you do in the mornings, afternoon, and evenings? Who are your friends? What do you spend your days doing?

Continue writing for as long as this exercise feels invigorating and exciting. Write scenes, dialogues, lists, and plans. Make the future come alive. Write about how it will feel to be there. Keep your writing somewhere where you will look at it occasionally. Feel free to add to it.

3. Surround yourself with visual reminders of the life you’d like to create.

If it’s a new job in a particular field, put objects or images from that field someplace where you’ll see them every day. If it’s a home, find a picture of a house that you love and put it near your front door. It can be anything that reminds you of what you’re moving toward.

4. Now that you have a vision of your future, break it up into workable tasks.

What do you need to do, every day, to create that vision? Look for work? Meet new people? Search for a place to live in your chosen town? Make it specific. Make a list of everything you need to do and a schedule for when you’ll do it. Then do it and commit to keep doing it, one day at a time.

5. Every day, go back to that vision of you walking toward your future.

Every morning or evening, close your eyes and see yourself walking into the rising sun, toward your dreams, and reconnect with why you’re moving toward this new possibility.

Reinvention is neither easy nor always smooth. Often, we encounter resistance. We don’t want to let go, even of things that cause us pain or that are obviously already out of our grasp. We often struggle with limiting beliefs or stories about ourselves that hold us back from trying new things.

But there is one way to keep your compass pointed to this new life, even in the midst of any resistance or struggles you may encounter on your path.

Each time you find yourself slipping into old habits—isolating yourself, making excuses not to look for work, procrastinating on a task that might help you advance in your career—don’t bother wondering why you’re doing it or beating yourself up.

Just ask yourself this: “What can I do in this moment to keep moving forward?”

Then, no matter what you feel in the moment—lonely, self-critical, tired, lazy, or disappointed—do something to maintain momentum, even if it’s one small thing. There’s an old adage that says that true courage isn’t about not feeling fear; it’s about feeling fear and acting anyway.

Choose courage instead of letting your fear choose your future for you.

Source:

http://tinybuddha.com/blog/5-steps-to-reinvent-yourself/

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